No more excuses, it’s time to start making connections

There is a famous quote to C JoyBell C: “You can talk someone for years, every day, and still it won’t mean as what you can have when you sit in front of someone; not saying a word, yet you feel that person with your heart, you feel like you have known that person for forever…...connections are made with the heart, not the tongue.”

Sometimes when we feel anxious we start finding excuses to escape certain situations. All this happens because we are not sure of ourselves, and we are scared of our friends, relatives and even family.

You may not need to call or meet your friends or relatives every day to keep your relations strong and alive. But you need to be true to the bond that keeps your relationship alive and everlasting. I think if you declare somebody as your own, it means you must have a mutual understanding, and if you have that, there’s no need to give excuses or explanations.

Those who love you, understand you, and need you, will never ask for it. Having said that, one must also keep in mind that those who don’t care about you don’t deserve justifications or excuses. If you need to make someone understand you role or participation, if you are forced to justify yourself, or if you are lying because of fear then you need to think again about that relationship.

This doesn't mean that you do not even try to make things work. What it means is that you should question whether there is love, a strong bond or a sense of satisfaction between you and that person. If yes, then hold on to that relationship till last breath. If not, it’s better to leave before it’s too late.

Connect with your soul through yoga and meditation

There are many forms of yoga. Some deals with controlling bodily functions. In our body, we have two currents: Motor currents and sensory currents. The motor currents keep us alive by controlling involuntary functions, such as the growth of nails and hair, breathing, and blood circulation.

In meditation, one does not practice the control of your motor currents. The motor currents are allowed to go on by themselves so that the process by which we survive is not tampered with. Instead, we withdraw the sensory currents. The sensory currents give us sensation in the body. It is the sensory currents that make us aware of the sense of sight, hearing, smell, taste and touch. If we withdraw our sensory currents from the outside world, we will be able to travel to the realms within ourselves.

Meditation is, in reality, a process of concentration. It is so simple and natural that it can be practised by a young child or the elderly, by a healthy person or someone with a physical disability. Meditation does not require any rigorous physical activity. It is a non-denominational technique that has been practised as a science by people of all religions and faiths, cultures and back grounds. It is open to one and all, and has been offered as a free gift by the spiritual masters who have come to us through the ages. It is up to us whether we wish to merely read about the realms beyond, or experience them. The saints tell us that the body deteriorates, decays, and is finally destroyed. But our true self, which is our spirit or soul, is eternal. It lives. By connecting with our soul, we will have access to the answers of what awaits us in the great beyond.

In matters of trust, you need to be highly choosy

We all have to go through situations of trust and distrust. That is as inevitable as love and hate periods in life. Trust and distrust create scenarios that make the best use of. History tells us that trust and distrust have equally been used or misused to one's advantage.

Just as trust helps bridging gaps of misunderstanding between individuals, distrust makes one feel lonely and dejected. You distrust someone and a chain reaction sets in. As a result, life's journey and its noble purposes go haywire.

George Eliot, in her study of life's vicissitudes in the case of two principal characters in her novel, Middlemarch, portrays this inevitably sad story of life: "He distrusted her affection; and what loneliness is lonelier than distrust?"

True, distrust can't be taken as a negative trait all the time. At times, it becomes important that one gets to understand the turns of life when distrust could be the only weapon of protection for survival and for leading a peaceful life. You may be quite positive and even meaning well for the rest of the world, but that does not mean that you won't be taken for a ride.

You have to be positively discriminating to safeguard yourself. Shakespeare's wisdom, in 'All is well that ends well ', says, "Love all, but trust a few." There is no possibility of any harm coming your way when it comes to your loving even the whole world, but blind trust could lead to horrible consequences one could have never thought of. As someone said, trust is like a mirror, you can fix it if it broken, but the cracks will be staring at you, to torment you until your last breath.

Smile - A curve that can set a lot of things straight

When was the last time you took time out of your busy schedule and smiled for no reason? Well, it's still not too late to dedicate a few seconds to it. Trust me, it will only do you good. A smile is a short curve that can set a lot of things straight and generates an instant response; like when you instantly smile when you see another smiling face. Even babies understand this feeling. If you smile with all your heart in front of a baby, the grin on her face will be even bigger.

A smile works in almost all situations, when you are feeling low and a friend cracks a joke that makes you smile through your tears. Feel proud to have such a wonderful friend, and to experience an emotion so beautiful. So the next time you feel low, just try this simple excercise: Start talking to a little kid or head out to see little ones playing in your locality; better still, join in on the fun and play with them and see all your sadness and depression vanish. Within seconds, you'll be smiling from ear to ear.

Instead of waiting for happy moments to come to you, take charge and create yourself. The idea is to find happiness in things around you because even though the worst situations in life, there still will be something that is good about your life and the relationships that you've nurtured. Talk to friends, spend time with your loved ones or indulge in an unplanned charitable deed. These can do wonders and not only bring a smile to you, but others as well. So, keep looking out for little excuses to smile though bad times and you'll be able to sail through smoothly. Remember, you don't own all the problems in this world.

We need more women in public spaces

A brilliant article by "KALPANA VISHWANATH"

Pink autos, pink taxis, pink signages in the metro -- when did pink becomes the colour of Indian women? Indian women wear a range of vibrant colours. The pink-blue divide is a recent western import. But the broader question: Do we need pink autos and taxis? Would this ensure safety of women? Will seperate spaces for men and women ensure safety? In fact government schools in Delhi are all segregated. There is no evidence that this leads to greater safety. If boys and girls from a young age are not given the opportunity to interact with each other in a healthy and normal atmosphere, every interaction becomes fraught.

I  certainly see the benefit of having more women drive autos, taxis and buses, work as bus conductors, work in petrol pumps, in general be visible in public places. Having more women circulate in public spaces is good because safety audits have shown that having more women in public spaces makes the space safer for everyone. Both men and women find gender-diverse spaces safer. A park used by men, women and children certainly seems safer than one which is male dominated. So the government should create the conditions whereby more women are able to move freely in public spaces. The Delhi Transport Corporation recently publicized that they have their first woman driver. They must now find ways to not only encourage but make it a priority to have more women as drivers and conductors. While women-only spaces such as the women's compartment in the Delhi Metro must not be seen as the final solution to the problem of safety. I concede that it is an important strategy in a society where women feel unsafe. It is important at this time to have some seperate spaces, but they must be part of a larger basket of solutions that also address gender inequalities and gender violence.

The message that we are giving by only looking at segregation as a solution is that a society without sexual violence is not possible. What we are saying is that it is not possible for women and men to live in spaces which are mutually compatible and safe. We are also condemning all men as predators. In fact many men do not inflict sexual violence on women and we need to figure out how to build a society where this is the primary reality. What we need to do is to begin to address the roots of inequality in our societies. We have to do the hard work of creating a more equal and just society and there are no short cuts and easy solutions to achieve that. Along the way, we may need to do many things to improve women's experience of everyday life, but the goal remains equality.

What It Takes To Succeed

                                                              POSITIVE THINKING

Think About This :-

*  Beethoven was told by his teacher that as a composer, he was "hopeless"?
*  Walt Disney was fired by a newspaper because he had "no good ideas"!
*  Thomas Edition was told that "he was too stupid to learn anything"!
*  Michael Jordan was dropped from his high school basketball team!
*  Ray Krok failed as a salesperson before discovering the idea for McDonald's!


  Each of these people were positive thinkers. They believed in themselves and were determined to succeed.



  We often read about successful people in history. What was it that made them successful? The answer is, they had 'What it took to Succeed!' Although most successful people have skills, talents and characteristics that help them to succeed, when you look at these skills and talents, you will realise that you possess many of them yourself! These are thr things you do easily - these are your strengths! When you find your strengths, develop and use them, so that you too will be someone your people will look up to!

A Mithila Festival

The people of Mithila celeberated age-old festival, Jud-Shital, with traditional gaiety and fervour on Wednesday, on the first day of Baisakh. In the festival people receive water on their heads from their elders. In common parlance, Jud-Shital festival consists of two words, 'jud' which means blessing and 'shital' which refers to coolness. Hence, this festival, as its literal meaning suggests, is observed by people, offering blessing to their juniors, by putting water on their foreheads.

According to Manchan Jha, a priest at Radhakrishna temple of Darbhanga Raj, it is a festival which highlights the significance of water, plants, ponds and cleanliness. "Traditionally, it was observed for cleaning sources of water such as ponds and wells. That's why people which is still prevalent in rular pockets of Mithila and terai region of Nepal. Sadly, the festival has lost some of its original spark of late as many folks have stopped observing this important ritual," Jha said. People woke up early in the morning with cold water, kept overnight in 'lota' to be splashed over one's head from family elders. It is customary to pour water and irrigate trees and plants especially the mangoe plant so as to give it a new lease of life. It is mandatory to eat rice and 'badi' (spongy receipe made from gram flour), that had been cooked and left overnight to cool with chutney of raw mangoes.

"The festival still remains a lot of values to socialise and promote conservation of nature," said Manikant Jha, a Maithili writer and programme anchor. "We used to go out and play in the mud with each other only to wash ourselves in neighbourhood ponds afterwards. Not to forget that the Jud Shital festivity is protected by 'satuwain', being observed a day before in which people eat 'sattu' in the breakfast," he said. "Tradition has it that allthe sources of water, be it tanks or wells or any other such sources; it was cleaned on the Vaishakh Sankranti every year in Mithila. Not to forget hunting excercise in neighbourhood orchard and wrestling competition invariably organised in villages on the occasion," nostalgically recalled noted Maithili poet Jaiprakash Choudhary Janak. This tradition seems to have been gradually disappeared with the advent of modern lifestyle.

Don't take the easy way out

Courtsey:- Hindustan Times

Why should we give so much publicity and importance to a heinous criminal ? This is the one of the arguments made against the documentary film that features an interview with the driver of the bus in which a young girl was gang-raped on December 16, 2012, in Delhi and subsequently died. The man has justified her rape and killing on the grounds that women should not be out and about at night and also that had she not resisted, she would not have been brutalised so badly. He goes on to say that in future, victims would be killed so as to not provide evidence against their attackers. These are responsible statements and much of the outrage that this man could air his ugly views so openly even while in jail after being convicted is understandable. But, banning the documentary serves little purpose.
             In the first place, the filmaker apppears to have got permission to go inside the jail and film the man. Of course, now that the deed is done, the home ministry plans to look into how this happened. Many feel that this is an insult to the parents of the murdered girl. But, perhaps the greatest insult to her was that inhuman violence. As do so many other women day after day. Also, the man's views are not very different from those held by many in other society. The views of some of our political representatives, our khap panchayats and even surveys among young people have shown that violence against women is routinely seen as something they invite on themselves.
           Documentary or no documentary, it is this regressive mindset that militates against women. In fact, his ultternaces could well evoke such revulsion among people that there will be more voices against such criminality in future. Instead of trying to suppress the film in which a convict has aired his despicable views, the ministry need to strengthen our policing system so that women have a fighting chance to prosecute their attackers. Whatever action is taken now, there is bound to be increased interest in the film. Banning the documentary is to take the easy way out. The problem it addresses will not go away quite so easily.

THE PERFECT GIFT FOR OUR PARENTS

Nothing is static in our universe. Time moves on and changes roles. Our parents, who provided us with an unbringing, an education, physical, emotional and financial security, would now desire a new and different life. Remember how carefully they guided us in our pursuits, our future dreams ? Isn't it time to change roles and think about their future ?

Our families, career and social obligations make for a busy life, which actually gives us very less time to understand our parents' aspirations. When was the last we sat down over a cup of tea with our parents and discussed not our future but theirs, not our goals, and aims but their dreams ? To tell the truth, if we had such a conversation and came to know about our parents' real wishes, we'd be surprised.

Times have changed. The passage of time doesn't mean the end of vitality or a good life, and on the contrary, our parents today are living happier, younger lives. They've also moved on in their needs, dreams and aspirations. They might want to indulge in a new pastime, lead an active lifestyle or even dream of a life in the hills.

+Veerendra Vivek 

SUCCESSFUL TRIP OF OBAMA

On the occasion of Republic Day, the India's tour of US President Barack Obama is success in all the way. The credit of this success goes to Indian PM Narendra Modi. The India's tour of Barack Obama is diplomatic & psychological success. The friendship with the president of most powerful country of Modi is a message to the world. In the same way Modi made the strong relationship with the ruler of Australia & Japan. Obama also give the appreciation to India for the Afghan logic & nuclear programme of Iran. Togetherly, he also give the force on the same focus for the China. At the same time, the promagramme of Obama with Modi "MAN KI BAAT" on Aakashwani is also apprecaible. The management of three days tour of US president is also better. PM Narendra Modi is present him as Man of Action in front of Obama, that's why Obama is become the fan of Modi.

BE SAFE ON ROADS

Very difficult to drive the vehicle in Delhi. It is also difficult that there is not any book or organization for right guidelines to drive the vehicle in Delhi. As an experienced driver, it is my duty to give some guideline about how to drive the vehicle in Delhi.
1) In the car, accelerator is for increase the speed and break is for stop. My experience says that many people drives the car years & years but they don't know what is the use of break.
2) This is not necessary that the maximum speed given in the speedometre you have to drive in that speed. Car is being run in the different speed according to necessity, but it is safe that maximum car is runs below the speed of 100.
3) Don't drive on the edge of road because on the edge of road there is broken railing, tree, stone, sand, bicycle, auto rickshaw, buildings, etc anything is there. In the night, take special care for this matter because sometime where there is broken tree or stone there is not any street light.
4)  Don't drive the car in between the road, because this is also danger that vehicle from both the sides made the accident of your car. Then there is question that where we drive the car ? The answer is it is good that don't drive the car anyhow.
5) After talking to the different drivers, I made the list of those cars which drivers drives the cars very dangerously & we have to do the special care. The names are :- buses, small trucks, big trucks, taxies (specially taxies of call centre), auto rickshaw, three wheelers of goods carrier, trackters, bikes, scooters, bicycle, bicycle rickshaw, and also those which is running or stayed on the road, pedestrian people. There is not any danger with air planes, ship & spaceship. This is the some advice, and some other days for more advice.

How many muscles are there in the human body ?

The human body has more than 600 major muscles. About 240 of them have specific names. There are two main types of muscles (1) skeleton muscles and (2) smooth muscles. A third kind of mudcles called Cardiac Muscle has characterestics of both skeleton and smooth muscles. It is found only in the heart. Skeleton muscles help hold the bones of the skeleton together and give the body shape. They also make the body move. Skeleton muscles make up a large part of the legs, arms, abdomen, chest, neck and face. These muscles vary greatly in size, depending on the type of job they do. For e.g., eye muscles are small and fairly weak, but the muscles of the thigh are large and strong.